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Saturday, April 23, 2011

Sanguine Saturday For Easter

Easter seems to be kicking my butt again this year, but I can SEE that i'm coping better than in the past. Not great, not even well, but better. It's all baby steps.

Success Stories:
I've resisted the urges to burn.
I practiced being assertive.
I allowed myself to feel an extremely uncomfortable feeling for a little while.
I negotiated to get my needs and desires met with my family.
This blog got held up as an example of positive healing techniques!
I got quoted on a post at a popular BPD blog (On The Borderline) -- Change Your Thoughts.
I built mastery by taking my harddrive out of my old laptop and putting it into an enclosure for the new one! (I'm not generally good at that sort of thing and usually leave it to people who know what they're doing.)
I practiced organising, decision making and asking for things.

Gratitudes/Happy Things:
My friends.
My upcoming trip.
Spending time with my nieces and nephew.
Crazy autocorrect that turns "requirements" into "Eratosthenes".

Challenge and cheer-leading statements:
Just because my opinion is different doesn't mean it's wrong.
Situations are what they are. Trying to force them into a different mold doesn't work.
I don't have to be perfect.
I am not responsible for anyone else's thoughts, emotions or actions.
Just because someone is angry or upset with me doesn't mean they don't like me anymore or want out of my life.

Don't forget to post up your own version of Sanguine Saturday (any day, any format as long as it's positive-focused!) and shoot me the link! If you're joining us in this challenge, I want to know about it. Finally, of course, don't forget to check out this week's list of Sanguine Saturday versions:
Lua of Almost Positive with Weekend Positivity

Happy Easter to those who celebrate it, and as always take care of yourselves until next time, and may we all find our own small fences along the way.


  1. I am so proud of you, hon. Hang in there. You're doing such a good job. I love you. *rainbow balls*

  2. autocorrect also turned "jack white and the red kind crabs" into "lack white and the red king arabs." i was so confused for a bit there.

  3. Baby steps are HUGE and important!
    That statement on anger is something that I have to remind myself of.

    Happy Easter to you! =)

  4. It sounds like you're handling things very well. That's wonderful. I hope it only gets easier. Happy Easter :-)

  5. "I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do."

    "I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do."

    "I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it."

    "I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think."

    "I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel."

    "I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel."

    "I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself."

    "I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become."

    "I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change."

    (all stolen, of course, but all true)