tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post722554524999159895..comments2023-05-03T01:18:17.167+10:00Comments on Dialectic Dichotomy: Kam kam, ruz be ruzChrysalishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17987538360359912475noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-67265721572777628432010-04-08T18:46:46.810+10:002010-04-08T18:46:46.810+10:00Mm, this chrysalis half agrees with you, actually,...Mm, this chrysalis half agrees with you, actually, Sonya. ;) From where I am currently standing, I don't think it's easier energy-wise, but I think that once I hit a point where it's more practiced, it becomes more energy efficient.<br />Re: the saying -- oops! I didn't realise I mixed the two around. I'll fix that as soon as I post this, thank you!<br />Your experiment sounds interesting, but I want to give it a bit more thought before I try it. I know me -- and I know I have a teeny, tiny tendency to take things to the extreme ;) so I want to make sure that in doing this, I won't end up going "huh, that worked well, screw my head, I'm just gonna listen to my heart from here on out") which I think would be ultimately just as problematic.<br /><br />Hi Stacy, thank you. I see what you mean re the doctor, but I don't think that's the case here -- he's just a general practice physician and knows very little about BPD, let alone DBT! It wasn't that we didn't discuss the stuff behind it or anything like that, because I don't do that with my GP at all - it's just that those little "proofs" that he recognises that behind the self harm there's a person, those things were missing. He passed me while I was waiting for the nurse today, though, and said hi so maybe it was just an off day for him.<br />I think you're right that the most difficult path is not always the 'right' one. And maybe sometimes even the 'right' one isn't the right one.Chrysalishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987538360359912475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-191910464121048632010-04-08T12:18:05.380+10:002010-04-08T12:18:05.380+10:00being present and in the moment is always better, ...being present and in the moment is always better, imo. and, in the grand scheme of energy, its a lot easier, too! i know certain chrysalises wont believe me on that. but i am right. totally. ;)Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04170103458635707685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-58203740559871118822010-04-08T07:05:17.306+10:002010-04-08T07:05:17.306+10:00I relate on several things. For one, I always thi...I relate on several things. For one, I always think that the harder of two paths must be the wiser path. That the more difficult option must be the better. This is often true but it sure makes life hard. And I don't know if it's always true. I think you may be right. Maybe sometimes it's just better to be in the moment and take things more easy.<br /><br />Also, in our DBT group (and in most I think) the therapist don't want to hear from you after you've engaged in your target behavior. Of course they're behavioral therapist. It would be reinforcing to engage in support of us after we'd self harmed. And their rational is that if we've already hurt ourselves then we've already delt with our stress that way so we shouldn't need to talk further. Maybe your doctor was just doing what he's been taught. Maybe he was wishing so much he could show you some compassion but cared enough about you in the long run that he didn't want to do anything to reinforce your behavior. I know, it just sucks big time though doesn't it? In the past when I've done self hard in that manner it's always so very lonely afterward. <br /><br />And I can so relate to feeling "conflicted" as I always describe it to my therapist. Especially when I'm depressed and going around in my head about self harm or suicide. So much conflict in my head. It drives me crazy. Oh yeah, never mind, I'm already crazy!<br /><br />Take care of you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535471466050187965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-45540660780004756342010-04-08T05:50:04.761+10:002010-04-08T05:50:04.761+10:00technically, "little by little, day by day.&q...technically, "little by little, day by day."<br />may i suggest... your heart seems to be generally more reliable than your head. what would happen if you created an experiment... for say, 24 hours... or even one hour to start, you obeyed only your heart instead of your head. just to see what its like.Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04170103458635707685noreply@blogger.com