tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post3703585754950534161..comments2023-05-03T01:18:17.167+10:00Comments on Dialectic Dichotomy: Alcohol Recovery: On Being Selfish & Feeling GuiltyChrysalishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17987538360359912475noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-28160246037415475652011-07-01T13:26:49.893+10:002011-07-01T13:26:49.893+10:00A true friend would naturally choose lovely you ov...A true friend would naturally choose lovely you over boring alcohol!Borderline Lilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988037918955358589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-54731340072194165802011-07-01T05:13:36.959+10:002011-07-01T05:13:36.959+10:00Your friends had a free choice. Go drink at a pub ...Your friends had a free choice. Go drink at a pub without you or go have something else somewhere else with you. They chose to be with you you. They dion't feel forced or obligated or whatever, they knew they had a choice, but they also knew they wanted to be with you. That's the end of it. I know the feelings are not caught up yet, but that's what happened. They had a choice and they chose to go to McDonald's. They were actually quite pleased when you voiced an opinion and they haven't regretted the choice they made once. (speaking for myself of course, but I'm guessing others as well.)<br /><br />MiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-1261793400049786872011-07-01T01:12:22.074+10:002011-07-01T01:12:22.074+10:00"they had to choose between spending time wit..."they had to choose between spending time with me and doing what they wanted"<br /><br />i suspect, actually, that at that point they had been presented with two things they wanted; your company, and a drink. they went with the one they wanted *more.* it's like saying "chocolate or vanilla," (both are good, its just a matter of what sounds best in the moment) not "chocolate or chopped liver" (one is good, the other you might feel obligated to have if your mother were watching).<br /><br />also, the difference between selfISH and self CARE is sometimes narrow and sometimes vast. it can be tricky. but in your identification here (not talking about how it felt to you, more the reality of it) was off the mark. i think you did self CARE, not selfISH.Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04170103458635707685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6486214074384158284.post-91470382231841565912011-06-30T12:47:38.232+10:002011-06-30T12:47:38.232+10:00Sometimes it's ok to be selfish. And sometimes...Sometimes it's ok to be selfish. And sometimes it's ok to let your friends value you and care about your well being. (They do so because they WANT to!)Martyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11288051614841159365noreply@blogger.com